Certified career coach Hallie Crawford says you may have a work spouse if:
- You and a co-worker share information you would only tell a spouse, like personal details about yourself that you don't share with other colleagues.
Gotta say, some of this sounds vaguely familiar. I certainly had a couple lab spouses in my day -- it's a nice way to blow off steam and have a chuckle. It's the explanation by this professor that I find well, obvious:
- You confide in them more than anyone else at your office about work issues.
- You spend a lot of time with them, almost as much time as you do with your spouse.
Work spouses are often labeled as close work friends of the opposite sex, however one researcher finds this is not always the case.
"We've researched instances where heterosexual individuals have work spouses who are of the same sex - and many examples of work spouses where one is heterosexual and the other is gay, lesbian or bisexual," noted Chad McBride, an associate professor who studies these relationships at Creighton University.Really? Close friends of the same sex? You're kidding me. (And for my next paper, the moisture content of water!) Work spouses (and lab spouses, too) aren't really about gender; they're about trust and acceptance.
(It's worth pointing out that lab spouses can be a friction point inside a lab environment, especially when they start teaming up against other lab members. Don't do that.)